Pastor's Corner 070713

posted Jul 9, 2013, 11:11 AM by Music Director

            On behalf of my family I want to thank you all for your extraordinary kindness to us as we grieve the passing of my beloved mother.  Your thoughts, prayers, Mass and sympathy cards, and other expressions of condolence and solidarity with us have lightened our sense of loss tremendously.  You have truly helped us to know the love of God.  It is said that behind every dark cloud there is a silver lining.  YOU are that silver lining!

               The sadness I carry is immense, yet not as bad as I expected it to be.  There are many reasons for that, I think.  The way so many, many people have rallied around me and my family is one.  But when my mother’s physical health began to decline and I realized the end of her earthly journey was drawing near, I had a very strange experience.  Rather than begin to fall apart as I always thought I would, an overwhelming sense of peace came over me one afternoon.  It surprised me so much that I actually began to chuckle, as if to say, “Well I’ll be…”

But then I asked myself, “Why am I feeling this way?”  And just as fast as that thought crossed my mind, I heard a little voice inside say, “Because God answered all your prayers, stupid!” And I laughed again.

Indeed He had; every single one of them.  Since I was a little boy, I prayed that God would grant my mother a long, long life; and He did.  (She’s 91, after all!)  When she developed dementia, I prayed He would keep her safe.  She had a few close calls, but He did that, too.  When it was diagnosed as probable Alzheimer’s disease, I prayed that God would take her before she lost her memory of me and my siblings and their families.  And again, He did just that.  The only prayers left were that she not die alone, that I and as many of my family as possible would be with her; and that it be peaceful for her, that she wouldn’t be afraid.  We were, it was, and she wasn’t.

               I firmly believe all the clichés:  that my mother IS in a better place; that she IS happy, more than I or any of us can imagine; that she IS with the Lord, Mary and all the saints; with my father and sister, her parents and siblings and all of her family and friends and all the faithful who went before her; because despite her faults, she was a woman who loved immensely, who cared deeply for people, and whose faith in God was unquestioned and unshakable.  I have but one prayer left when it comes to her, and I’ll keep that one to myself.  But I still miss her, and will until I can be with her and all my loved ones in heaven. 

YOUR love, and the love of so many others, is making it possible for me and my family to carry on.  For this I can never thank you enough.  There’s no way I can repay such incredible kindness and generosity, but I’ll try.  Thank you all so very, very much, and may God bless you and your loved ones always.  May He hear and answer your every prayer!


In His Love,

Fr. Mike